Ok so this is my first time blogging and I am a little scared to be honest with you folks but what the heck I'll give it a shot. Right now I am battling with going back to work after being a stay at home mom for the past 3 years. Really the battle would be to look for a job but thoughts of working keep entering my mind. Then I think what a minute I do work... 24/7 at home. But since I'm not getting paid and we are behind on our bills how much value is staying at home?
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....
Now I'm a strong believer in the importance of staying home to raise your children for many reasons, and I have a feeling that if I were to go back to work I would feel guilty not being home with my kids. How oh how do you find a good balance? I'm sure there are tons of books written on this matter, but I the kind of girl that needs to figure out things on my own, books are good but are more like guidelines rather than answers.
Pros of going back to work
- More Money
- More time for myself
- Get re-connected with the professional world
Cons of going back to work
- Sending them to full time preschool
- Cost of preschool
- Less time with the kids
Now to me those are pretty general pros and cons and if I thought long enough I think I would come up with more cons than pros. To me the pros list seems a little selfish and in my opinion I gave up the right to be selfish when I decided to have kids. Now don't get me wrong I think it's important to make time for yourself just to keep your mind right. But to me what is most important right now is setting my kids up for success by building their trust and confidence by staying at home with them. That's one way to look at it. I also see that by working it shows them how to take care of their responsibilities and that working hard for what you want will pay off. I also am learning that financial issues put a huge burden on marriage and kids do not benefit from parent that fight.
I have so much more on my mind on this topic but again time has slipped away and dishes need to be done, toys need to be picked up, beds need to be made and babies are about to wake up. Until next time remember your mood is determined by you so why not be happy!
